Over the last few months, there have been several high profile people who have been accused of sexual misconduct. Some were accused of outright crimes like rape. Some, of other sexual indiscretions like sexual harassment in the workplace. The one prevailing commonality in all of these cases was the fact that the woman who were the accusers did not come forward immediately when the incidents occurred. Some even waited decades.
When I think about that, it makes me sad. It’s bad enough that these women had to be subjected to being sexually dehumanized, but in addition to that, they had to suffer this humiliation in silence. At least they felt like they had to. And, honestly, the reasons why they felt they had to suffer in silence don’t matter to me. What matters is that these women did not feel like they could use their voices.
Anyone who knows me or follows me on social media or even in this blog, knows that I am all about empowering women and girls. We need to know not only our value and worth, but also our power. While it may be hard, scary, intimidating to come forth when we have been violated, in any situation, we must get beyond that and open our mouths and speak on it. When we remain silent in situations where we really should speak up, we are telling people that their treatment of us is acceptable. We teach people how to treat us by how we react to them. I’m not saying that a rape victim can prevent being raped by being firm with a potential attacker. But what I am saying is that when we find ourselves in situations where the treatment we are receiving is less than desirable, we must learn to use our voices and speak up. We must learn to fight and scream if that’s what it takes for us to be heard. Do not let fear keep you in a space where you don’t belong and don’t want to be. The idea that we are supposed to be “the gentler” of the two sexes is absolute poppycock….(that’s not really the word I wanted to use, but I’m trying to be a good Christian). We are just as strong, intelligent and capable as men and we need to act like it.
And we need to stop teaching our little girls to be delicate flowers and instead teach them how to use the voice God gave them, even if it’s not always the most popular thing.
Please, please, please whenever you find yourself in a situation that makes you uncomfortable or angry or you just don’t like it, SPEAK UP! It is not your lot in life to be some subservient underling who has to just accept whatever someone feels like handing you! God created you to be a KING; a conqueror; a warrior! Do not be less than what God created you to be!!